Have you ever said “I’ll be happy when_______”
I’ll be happy WHEN I get that job.
I’ll be happy WHEN I find a boyfriend (or girlfriend).
I’ll be happy WHEN I make more money.
And then you achieve the goal, whatever is is….the job, or boyfriend, or money and VIOLA, you live happily ever after. Right?
Usually achieving these goals give us a “happy-high.” We’re happy for a short time but then we go back to the way we were – feeling less than satisfied with our lives, and searching for the next “happy-hit.”
I’ve experienced this many times before, especially with my first career when I worked in investments. I had a whole list of I’ll be happy WHENs. I’ll be happy when I buy a house, I’ll be happy when I get a promotion, I’ll be happy when I don’t have such a long commute. I accomplished these goals, and had a “happy-high” that lasted for a few days but I quickly went back to feeling quite miserable with my life.
Can you relate to this?!
This is why I LOVE Positive Psychology Coaching! Positive Psychology Coaching is about helping people achieve goals that actually lead to greater happiness. I hear that a lot of coaches focus on goals with out concern for the person’s overall well-being. For example, “Work with me and you’ll lose the weight…find the girl…make the million.”
Positive Psychology Coaching is about helping people make positive change WHILE ALSO giving attention to the well-being of the whole person.
Positive Psychology is a research-based branch of psychology that studies human thriving in order to better understand the causes of genuine well-being and to help people live happier, more fulfilling lives.
Which is what we all want, right?!??!! To live HAPPIER, more FULFILLING lives….
Your list of “I’ll be happy WHEN______” may not actually makes you happy. So, what will?
Good question, right?
Start with answering these three questions:
What are you good at? (strengths)
What’s important to you? (values)
What do you enjoy? (pleasures)
And then take the most important step, and put this into ACTION.
I love working with clients to help them reach toward their biggest-dreams and best-self. If you’d like help, please don’t be shy. The free consultation is a great way to find out if coaching is right for you. I hope to hear from you soon.
Until then, take great care!